Kerry Barrett Welcomes A New Addition To Her Family

Kerry Barrett Welcomes A New Addition To Her Family

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Fox 29's Kerry Barrett welcomed a baby boy to her family this past weekend. She gave birth to John "Jay" Barrett IV and he looks utterly adorable. Jay is a healthy boy weighing in at 6 lbs 15oz.

This news is especially exciting for Kerry after she struggled last with miscarriages for over a year.  She told her personal story on FOX 29 last November to let other women know they are  not alone.

"Life for me doesn't get any better than this," Kerry Barrett said. "If I could freeze these moments, I don't think I'd ever leave."

"We were married for eight years before we had Avery. If I had any idea how much I would love being a mother, I would have started earlier because now I would have like six," Barrett said.

"Avery is our nearly-three-year-old daughter, our most exciting adventure, our biggest teacher and our greatest accomplishment. My husband John was in Iraq when I first found out I was pregnant. I had to text him the news." Barrett explained.

"We were trying, but had only been trying for two or three months," John Barrett said. "It happened rather quickly, so it was awesome, total excitement."

Now the couple barely remembers what life was like before her.

"It's one of those things where you look forward to getting up each morning and you look forward to coming home each night," John said.

"Sometimes when I go to bed at night, my heart is pounding because I can't wait to get up in the morning and see her," Kerry said.

They knew their family didn't feel complete without another. So when Avery was about a year and a half old, they started to try again. After a few months later Kerry was pregnant.

"I took a picture of the positive pregnancy test and sent it to my sister, my best friend, and my dad and my family," Kerry said.

However, this time things did not go as smoothly.

"We were actually on our way back to look at a house; we were house hunting. I started having, I started to bleed. That had never happened with Avery," Kerry explained. "I didn't really know what it was. I was still fairly early at that point. I was five or six weeks. We were at the ER for most of the night. You're holding out hope; maybe it's something else."

But as the night progressed they knew it was not something else. The baby they were so happy about was no longer with them. As difficult as that was, they also knew that statistically, that miscarriage is something that happens often and they would probably have better luck next time. So as soon as she recovered, she tried again, and again. A few months later she was pregnant.

They were positive this time would be different. Except it was not.

"I started to miscarry right before the 10 o'clock show, 9:30 and no one at work knew I was pregnant," Kerry said.

So she sat at the desk and anchored the 10 o'clock news. At home that night she lost a second pregnancy.

"There were some dark moments for me, and I think after the second is where we started not to tell people we were pregnant," Kerry said.

"You have the first and then the second and now we are in phase where maybe we aren't able to have kids," John said.

Having a miscarriage was one of the most isolating experiences in Kerry's life. Mothers are advised to not tell anyone they are pregnant until after the first trimester. What they do not tell you is that if you miscarry and no one knows, you go through it alone.

"I couldn't get the answers that I wanted about why it kept happening. Sometimes there's not any answers," Kerry explained.

It was at that point that she started seeing Doctor Scott Edwards, a fertility specialist at Pennsylvania Hospital.

"The most common cause of miscarriage is just a spontaneous chromosomal abnormality in the embryo. It can come from the sperm or the egg that just brought an abnormality to the early pregnancy," Dr. Edwards said.

They were not certain at that point of what was happening. All of Kerry's tests and physicals had come back normal. It was difficult for her to wrap her head around. John and Kerry are very healthy. Their family has no history of miscarriage or genetic. There was absolutely nothing they could do.

"I think that even though we say, 'it just happened, it's a chromosomal problem,' I think most women will still look back and think, 'it must have been something, it must have been that glass of champagne I had early on,' but really it's almost never something the mother did," explained Dr. Edwards.

Doctor Edwards started Kerry on a drug that worked to hyper-stimulate her ovaries. Instead of one follicle a month, she was now producing four in the hopes of having more success in getting a healthy egg. They were successful the very first month they tried it and this time she was pregnant with twins.

"Here is the one with two gestational sacs," Dr. Edwards showed.

Again, no one knew when she went in for her first ultrasound.

"He said to me, well, they look a little small, let's have you come back next week," Kerry recalled.

"There was some ambiguity where the ultrasound didn't look quite right, but we still had some hope, which unfortunately dragged on for several weeks," Dr. Edwards explained.

"I thought, 'it's probably just that they're a little smaller because they're twins, there's two in there and maybe I haven't been eating enough, I've been really stressed, and so this week I'm gonna eat,' and I stuffed my face with every healthy thing I could get on my plate. I mean I stuffed myself thinking it was my fault that the babies weren't growing. And then when we went back the next week, they hadn't grown anymore and the heartbeats had stopped," Kerry said.

Since she had to have a D&C procedure this time to remove the fetuses, she was able to test the fetal tissue. The babies had a chromosomal abnormality called Triosomy 18. In which there are three copies of chromosome 18. There should only be two, one from mom and one from dad. Finally she had some answers, but she was not sure that it helped.

"You can control as many variables as is possible by treating your body right, getting the right amount of sleep, but in terms of ever having control of a pregnancy, you don't. And I know that now," Kerry said.

She had knowledge, but she couldn't do anything with it. Although she tried, she spent far too much money on things like supplements and acupuncture that have little scientific evidence to back them up. She also spent hours on the Internet reading the stories that didn't give her any hope.

"I'm online until God knows what time of the morning and if you look for it you can find real information about statistics of people who have babies after 3 or 4 or even 5 miscarriages, but when you're in that place, that's not the information you're focusing on," Kerry said.

At that point she began to consider the possibility of giving up. The emotional roller coaster, the exhaustion, disappointment and depression was quickly becoming too much.

"I just um... I didn't expect it... and one after another... I wanted to forget it when it happened, but it's still very raw. I don't know if that will ever quite go away," explained Kerry.

All of it began to take a toll on them. Some of the worst fights they ever had came on the heels of a miscarriage. When some would feel like they should be coming together, some couples do not make it and it's not hard to understand why.

"It's really difficult. I can't stand to watch her hurting and a lot of the time, I don't know what to do to support her other than being here," said John.

For the father, it can be difficult to really understand what the wife is going through. For them, it may not seem real until they are holding a baby in their arms, but for the mother it's real from day one. Still, they tried again and again. She quickly got pregnant, a singleton this time, but something inside her knew from the start that something was wrong. And it was: this pregnancy progressed just like the last one.

"Things started out all right and then slowly they would stop growing and then the heartbeat would slow down and then the heartbeat would eventually stop. And so every time I go in now, I'm terrified that we won't see the heartbeat or that the growth has stopped," Kerry said. "So, I think that innocence is gone, and I still feel very much out of control, I think. Because I know what can happen now, and I didn't know before. And I know there's nothing I can do to stop it."

At about eight weeks, she had another miscarriage. She used to love going to the doctor when she was pregnant with Avery, every appointment was a new celebration, but this had taken an experience that should have been joyful and turned it into something she dreaded.

"I'm terrified at every doctor's appointment. I'm terrified to put the ultrasound on my belly because I don't really know what we're going to see," Barrett stated.

That will never change, but John and Kerry have grown together and, as a couple, realized that they are not alone. They have learned how to answer well-meaning, but misguided advice and questions. It's one of the reasons they decided not to give up.

"With two miscarriages, three miscarriages, if you asked them what the chances are that they will have another miscarriage, it's 90, 100 percent, it's just never going to happen. But really, it isn't. But, often there's a 50. 60. 70 percent chance that things are going to be OK," explained Dr. Edwards.

Ultimately, Avery is the reason.

"As you just heard little Avery tell you, I do now have a baby in my belly," Kerry said.

Kerry admits was still a little scary to say out loud, but they can finally breath easy now.

Kerry thanks everyone for all of the support and prayers throughout her pregnancy.

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